Book: Detour Down Desperation Road
Author: Ann Renigar Hiatt, Ph.D.
Genre: Nonfiction
Basic Description: One day your loved one begins forgetting things and you realize that it is more than normal aging. You don’t know where to go or what to do. Dr. Ann’s stories place you into the emotional and physical pressures on loving people who are desperate to learn how to help.
Experience the uncertainty, angst, and triumph as they alter their lives and draw on extraordinary intuition and strength and tackle problems, invent coping skills, and honor loved ones who slide deeper into dementia. Meet Ann’s strong, determined, entrepreneurial mother, known as ‘the hardware lady,’ as she hoards, obsesses, and persists while dementia slowly claims her brain. Ann’s inner guides, emotional Ann and rational Ann, whisper contradictory advice. Her love of her mother steers her to emotional resolutions. When all else fails, she must rely on rational decisions. She finds solace with support group members and others whose trials and solutions change daily as loved ones slip deeper into a condition for which there is no cure.
Arden’s Thoughts: As I read the stories of Dr. Ann, her mother, and her friends in the support group, all I could think was, This is hard. Heartbreaking. Frustrating. How does dementia happen and how do these caregivers not go nuts?
I’ve never personally dealt with dementia so I can’t relate as closely to this book as so many of you can. I’m including this book in my book club because of each of you… I have this feeling Dr. Ann’s work will break open dialogue among your friends and families. It’ll relieve so many of you because you’ll feel like someone gets your situation. And, it’ll begin to open all of our eyes to the plight of losing our sense of self and how to help those in similar situations endure that chapter of their lives.
I was lucky enough to get interview Dr. Ann. I’m sharing the highlights of our conversation here. Please read and then share this post. It’s an important one.
Dr. Ann: I hope so. I did not start writing until after Mom passed away and I did it to honor my mom and pay tribute to the indomitable people I met along my journey. I knew deep down that my story was one small example of an epidemic that is happening to countless families across the world. I felt so lost and afraid. I wanted to be a beacon for others.
Oh, Dr. Ann and Arden..I’m in the depths of this terrible debilitating disease with my own mother, and today was not a good day. I will definitely have to put this one on my reading list. Support group I was in, I found depressing, each and every week, in my own personal experience. I’m so happy that they help others. Thank you, Dr. Ann for sharing your journey, in hopes of helping others who are on this journey with their loved ones. Blessings…
On Mon, Nov 20, 2017 at 3:13 PM arden’s book club wrote:
> Arden McLaughlin posted: “Book: Detour Down Desperation Road Author: Ann > Renigar Hiatt, Ph.D. Genre: Nonfiction Basic Description: One day your > loved one begins forgetting things and you realize that it is more than > normal aging. You don’t know where to go or what to do. Dr. A” >
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We were hoping she’d build an even bigger community to help out all of you who are in the same boat. Thank you for writing!
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